Like I do just about every 2 weeks, I’m sitting at the local beauty school waiting for my very long and thick-haired daughter to get her as-yet chemically untreated natural mane of crowning glory washed, conditioned, and braided by a lady with a little more patience and a lot more skill than me to do so. The significant difference is that instead of reading and watching the clock between bouts of entertaining her for 4-5 hours while she gets coiffed, tonight I am springing an extra $8 to get pampered myself. Granted, I am well able to wash and roller set my own hair (as I generally do between relaxers), but today I decided I’d enjoy the treat. Wow – what have I been missing?!? My scalp is way happy right about now as I sit under the dryer conditioning and waiting for my stylist to finish coloring someone else’s tresses.
As mothers, we often forget to allow ourselves time to be rewarded for the many sacrifices we make on a daily basis. But when we remember, it really helps us to keep our serving and caring for others in perspective. All giving without being replenished and restored leads to imbalance – honey, don’t I know it!!! Yet, an occasional splurge (within reason, of course *wink, wink*) doesn’t hurt. As a matter of fact, it helps. When we feel relaxed, appreciated, and renewed, there’s no end to the benefits our families reap. On the flip side, we all know what pent-up resentment coupled with overtiredness and frazzled feelings lead to…and that untimely explosion ain’t pretty!
So do yourself a favor and have that cup of coffee made by someone else; take an extra 10 minutes driving home to enjoy some different scenery; lock the door and luxuriate in that monthly (or quarterly) bubble bath. Without guilt. Because you’ve earned it. If your family can attest to your sacrifices (and most of them speak for themselves), then you more than owe it to yourself to enjoy a reward from time to time.
Who knows? Next time, I may even add on the $6 manicure. LOL 🙂
© Copyright 2009 by Kayren J. Cathcart
”She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.”